How should divorced parents deal with their kid`s recent bad behavior?
Posted on April 18th, 2010 in Divorced | 4 Comments »
A friend and his wife got divorced about a year ago. They have an 11-year-old daughter, M. M lives with her mom, and visits her dad about once a week. She seems fine when she`s with her dad, but recently has been acting up at home. The problem seems to be that her time with Dad is all fun stuff, while Mom gets to handle all of the discipline and not-so-fun stuff like making her do her homework. M seems to resent her mom, and Mom is getting really frustrated. How should the parents deal with this?
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If things are amicable then they need to sit down together and discuss this. Dad needs to show M that he supports the decisions of mum and will continue to do so. Maybe they both need to explain that because she lives with mum, mum has a tough job and has to make sure there is constant discipline, rules, homework etc, and that it would be the same if she was with dad 99% of the time. If M sees mum and dad solid in this then she is less likely to kick off.
Counseling for the whole family.
Divorce is very hard on the children especially when they’re going through puberty.
Mom needs to sit down with Dad and work out the disciplinary issues. They have got to be on the same page on that so that the daughter isn’t playing one against the other. The main point behind all of this is "What’s best for the kids?"
Send the homework with her to dads for one.
And if the husband was not a hands on father while married.usually they will be all of a sudden be the fun dad…Hum maybe the marriage wouldn’t have ended if he would have been there for the kids before…
When she wants to do something or acts up tell her to call her dad and see how he want to handle it. Another idea is buy her a new puppy day of right before visiting dad. I bet she will see the real dad when puppy poos all over the place…