My spouse and I have been married for over 6 years. Due to a lot of little things he’s done in the past, the trust has been damaged. I’m trying to move on from the past, but I cannot get over it. I told him there is no starting over with the same person. He swears we can. That’s because he has nothing to put behind him so it’s easier said than done. He’s all talk, no action for the past 6 years. Since he’s been back from Iraq, he swears things are going to be different, but I just don’t have the energy anymore to start over with him. I’m burnt out. does anyone feel me on this, or am I just being a #!$ch?
I have told him over and over that I’m burnt out, that it’s over. He does not hear anything that I say. I tell him he needs to go. I tell him i’m not in love with him anymore. I have been telling him I want a divorce. He still thinks that we can work it out. I have 2 kids, it’s easier for him to leave the house and move back on base than for me to move all my stuff. But he won’t. He said if we get a divorce, we will sell our condo. The only thing he puts in the mortgage is his housing allowance, the rest comes from my paycheck. I feel it’s just fair if HE left and got his name out of the title. He won’t. But I don’t know what to do or how to leave because of all my stuff and my 2 kids.